There is one thing I discovered these days. A theory, kindof.. The best thing in life is to be dynamic. like dynamic allocation of memory..
There is no purpose in speculating and calculating. the probability that any speculation will work the way you want is i/x, where x in the number of people involved in speculation. and i, is the no of people (in x), who speculates exactly the way you are speculating.
For example,
If I tell 22 people about my new dream/speculation, you all start speculating in your own way. so, the probability of getting it done in my way is, 1/22. Well, there is a meager probability that one or 2 people will think in my own way. Even then,the max probability that I can obtain will be 1/11.
got it??
It doesn’t mean that I should not reveal my plans. The point is, that there is not much point in planning. The better way is, defend it the way it comes. 
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When we are alert, and dynamic one can respond in a much better way. Seriously, I’ve responded the best in these situations.
1. Accidents.. all 11 of them were reacted with an efficiency which reminded me of the final hr before university exams.
2. Lay-offs. Well, Not in my wildest dream I planned to face it. But trust me, I could handle it pretty well.
Well!! This is not a th. for a completely broken hearted or hopeless people!!
I just wanted to convey that our responses are much sharper when the situation is unpredicted. When we have a situation which is coming forth, lets take, an interview.. we’re tensed of what the outcome will be! Or, in scientific terms, we’re getting tensed over the predicted risk..
Now, as we all know, getting tensed reduces one’s efficiency by 40-60% depending upon gender.( guys are less suseptable to tension break-downs..yeaaey!!) So, when there is a calculated or predicted risk, our efficiency definitely reduces.
Now, when the situation spontaneous, we don’t have time, actually to brood over it. we need to act immediately! so, our efficiency will be much much better!
You can definitely note this, by the fact that unpredicted risks are “usually” better managed by female than male community..
So, what say you??
June 18, 2009 at 5:02 pm
Facing the unknown is the best thing to happen. Be it good or bad, you will learn from it. It is thrilling to live life on the edge. Live life the way you want it to be (but within the social framework
). The uncertainity of tomorrow is what makes life worth living
June 19, 2009 at 1:47 pm
Exactly!! you said the word. Thrilling edge. That is exactly which makes your life moving.. pumping up all the adrenaline!
June 18, 2009 at 5:42 pm
I dont completely agree with this theory. Especially the interview example… Its true that v will be tensed but for me when i get tensed i prepare.. if i am not tensed i dont prepare. my policy is to be a lil worried till just before the interview.. once it starts no tension at all.. so i will be prepared and i wont stutter.. this is purely my point of view..
Accidents and layoffs.. well who can prepare for them?.. that is completely different from an interview.. which v know b4 itself the date on which it is gonna happen..
i have seen two kinds of people regarding this… 1.. if v tell them its going to be fine, well then they get confident and dont prepare at all and later miserably fail…
2.. if v tell them its going to be fine, well they get happy and confident that they are going to succeed and they start studying with no tension..
this is strictly my opinion.. no offense at all…
June 19, 2009 at 12:10 pm
@deepak,
What you said is exactly my point. Especially the interview part. It is before the interview that peple get tensed. Usually, that will reduce the efficiency. God’s grace, you’re not affected with that. But trust me, many are. You also said once the interview starts, there won’t be an issue. Now, if there is a surprise interview, As sandeep said, we’ll fight with what we have and fight the way we can. It is just a matter of spontainity.
About accidents, just magine a situation where you have a notion that there is gonna be an accident?? or think of the days when we specualted a lay off??? As far as I am concerned, it was far more dreaded than the actual info that dude, u’re screwed. Afterall, there is a surety in it!
Now, the 3rd part. This, i completely agree. if they are 10 people we have 10 different ways. like wise, a theory concerning men can never be false proof, as there will always be a person who thinks differently. Just as you said, the same “its gonna be fine” sentence makes completely different results in different people!!
June 18, 2009 at 7:04 pm
da…one doubt..
if u r nt tellin anyone abt ur plans,
then i=1,x=1
then Probability = 1/1=1.
so that means ur wish is 100% done, huh???
June 19, 2009 at 12:17 pm
June 18, 2009 at 7:20 pm
Regarding preparing for an interview…
We sometimes prepare our course of action for the interview.One problem is that we have an extra burden of worrying if we have performed properly as planned.Any unexpected twists during the interview may leave us in a fix(as things didn’t work out in the way we planned or prepared).Getting ourselves prepared to face the unexpected may leave us in a better stand to deal with the situation.
Of course i don’t mean to say we should go unprepared,but stop preparing when we know just enough.
To draw a clear line as to what i mean by PREPARING..
for eg: i had an interview today..the topics were our b-tech syllabus..instead of frantically studying everything we had studied before,i sought to just cover the whole B-tech ,maybe in 45 minutes .I trusted my instincts that i can come up with a plausible answer with what i ve learned in 4 yrs,even if i don’t exactly know the answer to a question.
(PS:guys it worked to a good extent!:))
So i think facing the unexpected with nothing to lose mentality would pave way to exploring our hidden potential rather than only preparing ourselves with our known talents in mind.
pheeww
June 19, 2009 at 1:52 pm
hmm. Its good to find that someone actua;;y agrees with the crap I am talking
Sandeep pointed out about the thrilling edge. So, I’m not repeating that. on further thought, I believe, that when you have to fight with everything that we have, we’ll automatically explore a little into the unexplored territory. It may open a whole new aspect to the situation. a whole new view, I should say.
Well, I do not know if half the people will accept the theory! But I AM loving this discussion!!
June 18, 2009 at 10:57 pm
Your theory of speculation could be augmented by my own theory of people and personalities (where I postulate that every person adopts a different personality depending on the company they are in at a moment).
Essentially, if you are in a group of closer, friendlier people who understand each other well, then every one’s personality traits are bound to be similar (as can be experienced in daily life).
It follows, then, that a good number of people in this group are going to pick up your way of thinking and speculating, i.e. i is approximately = x.
Thus, if in a group of x, p% people are very close to you, and q% people socially adjusting & adaptive, then i=(p+q)% of x, or i/x=p+q! A direct relationship with the kind of people!
If you are interested, do read the full Multiple Personality Theory here:
http://prevalencia.wordpress.com/
June 19, 2009 at 2:03 pm
hmm. I did go through the th. I think I have seen a situation like this before. My point is, The MP th is valid not only in the way be have, but also in affecting our likes and dislikes.
For example, I go and watch a movie with my friends, suppose all of them being nutcases, The movie is actually a classic/conceptual kindof movie. Lets take “The Jacket” or “Requiem of a dream”. along with my friends, i would hate it(sincerely hate it) and when I see the movie on my own, or along with another group of people, I love it(genuinely and sincerely love it)
It has got nothing to do with the movie and nothing to do with my mood, and everything to do with the social circumstance that I am in.
June 19, 2009 at 6:24 pm
hmm..i agree that there is no point in speculating. the more you do it, it’s more likely that things will go way out of your hands.true. but telling other people.i don’t think that’s gonna make a difference.Nope.
and how can you generalize that men are better at handling it than women? No way.. It depends on two things.
1. the person
see, people who are not good at handling stress, they’ll mess up whether the situation is unpredicted or otherwise.
2. the situation
those who are usually good at it can also falter, go into pieces when..er..emotional problems come up..(hope you know what i mean)
altogether, i dont agree with the theory.
defend things the way it comes.. yep,yep..that i totally agree..